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Db at 20:32, 11 March 2011

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	== The selfish lack of consideration ==		== The selfish lack of consideration ==

	Don't drag someone around behind you. If you're not ready in your own mind. Too many times you see people in relationships that drag on for far to long. This would in most cases be due to one of the parties being on the fence (there is always one in the relationship that is on the fence). Usually this is due to the "so much time invested" clause. In other cases, this is the typical fear of being ~~along~~ issue. Men and women don't like to be alone. When they are in a relationship that they should not be in they are too afraid to change, so they act like all is well. All is not well and usually both parties know it, but are too sissy to make something happen about it. In my mind, this is one of the parties involved being selfish. People know when something is going to work or not and people don't change unless they want to (usually they don't), so if your in on of these relationships, understand that it is 90% inevitable that it will not end well. If you're the selfish prick drawing out this thing because you're scared, then grow the fuck up. Be a good person, break it off. Let the person on the other end of the stick move on, give them a chance to find what is right for them. This selfishness will only ruin your friendship which, if you're lucky enough, you can salvage with time. Take a step back, look at the situation. Think about how you're treated. Don't stand for this shit if you're getting it and if you're giving it, wake up and think about someone other then yourself.		Don't drag someone around behind you. If you're not ready in your own mind. Too many times you see people in relationships that drag on for far to long. This would in most cases be due to one of the parties being on the fence (there is always one in the relationship that is on the fence). Usually this is due to the "so much time invested" clause. In other cases, this is the typical fear of being alone issue. Men and women don't like to be alone. When they are in a relationship that they should not be in they are too afraid to change, so they act like all is well. All is not well and usually both parties know it, but are too sissy to make something happen about it. In my mind, this is one of the parties involved being selfish. People know when something is going to work or not and people don't change unless they want to (usually they don't), so if your in on of these relationships, understand that it is 90% inevitable that it will not end well. If you're the selfish prick drawing out this thing because you're scared, then grow the fuck up. Be a good person, break it off. Let the person on the other end of the stick move on, give them a chance to find what is right for them. This selfishness will only ruin your friendship which, if you're lucky enough, you can salvage with time. Take a step back, look at the situation. Think about how you're treated. Don't stand for this shit if you're getting it and if you're giving it, wake up and think about someone other then yourself.

	== Cheating with the Cheater ==		== Cheating with the Cheater ==

Abby: /* Reminders */

2011-02-27T21:57:19Z

Reminders

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	*It is a fucking jungle out there, good luck.		*It is a fucking jungle out there, good luck.
	*You can't see what ~~your~~ in until you get out and away from it.		*You can't see what you're in until you get out and away from it.
	*Change is scary but good.		*Change is scary, but good.
	*When things are going bad, look in the mirror. Blame is a 50/50 game usually.		*When things are going bad, look in the mirror. Blame is a 50/50 game usually.
	*If you have something people want, they will try and take it from you. Protect your neck!		*If you have something people want, they will try and take it from you. Protect your neck!

Abby: /* My Recap */

2011-02-27T21:56:47Z

My Recap

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	*Modern thoughts.		*Modern thoughts.
	::I always dreamed of having a relationship like the one I saw all growing up. I was lucky to have parents that accidentally fell in love. ~~THey~~ did not decide they were going to get married and have a fam. They did it by accident. Today, relationships leave nothing to chance. They are driven by physical ~~attractiveness~~ and are destined to fail because of it. They are sought after by people working to hard at life with little to no time for sharing that want to have their cake and eat it to. By people that decided that they deserve a child. They think it is their right even. Because of this they say one day, "I need a husband or wife. I am getting old and time is ticking. I better make something happen." In comes e-harmony, match.com, Facebook. No better place to stalk your next ex-fuck buddy.		::I always dreamed of having a relationship like the one I saw all growing up. I was lucky to have parents that accidentally fell in love. They did not decide they were going to get married and have a fam. They did it by accident. Today, relationships leave nothing to chance. They are driven by physical attraction and are destined to fail because of it. They are sought after by people working too hard at life with little to no time for sharing that want to have their cake and eat it to. By people that decided that they deserve a child. They think it is their right even. Because of this they say one day, "I need a husband or wife. I am getting old and time is ticking. I better make something happen." In comes e-harmony, match.com, Facebook. No better place to stalk your next ex-fuck buddy.

	* People don't change because you try and make them.		* People don't change because you try and make them.
	::At the end of your life there is one thing you will know. I will tell you it now and I am sure you have heard it before and I am ~~due~~ you will not listen to me but here goes nothing: PEOPLE DON"T CHANGE UNLESS THEY WANT TO. Nothing you can do will induce the change you wish for. If ~~your~~ dating someone that is on the fence about getting married, ~~don~~'t want to have kids, cheating repeatedly then you have someone that is not going to change on your account. They are going to keep doing what the fuck they want. Tell them ~~your~~ going to leave if you don't get engaged? If you succeed in this ultimatum I can assure you that you will not have success in your endeavor. You are creating an opportunity for resentment and hate, something that will rot your relationship to it core. Something that you will blame your partner for but in the end it was your fucking fault. They say if you love something then let them go and no truer words have ~~never~~ been said. If it is right to you but not them, walk away. Give it time. Don't be mad, just know ~~your~~ making the right decision. This is a win win. You will either find the person realized that you were the right person or you will realize that this person was wrong for you. Time is the only ~~prover~~ of an idea or thought, use this to your advantage.		::At the end of your life there is one thing you will know. I will tell you it now and I am sure you have heard it before and I am sure you will not listen to me but here goes nothing: PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE UNLESS THEY WANT TO. Nothing you can do will induce the change you wish for. If you're dating someone that is on the fence about getting married, doesn't want to have kids, cheating repeatedly, then you have someone that is not going to change on your account. They are going to keep doing what the fuck they want. Tell them you're going to leave if you don't get engaged? If you succeed in this ultimatum I can assure you that you will not have success in your endeavor. You are creating an opportunity for resentment and hate, something that will rot your relationship to it core. Something that you will blame your partner for but in the end it was your fucking fault. They say if you love something then let them go and no truer words have ever been said. If it is right to you but not them, walk away. Give it time. Don't be mad, just know you're making the right decision. This is a win-win. You will either find the person realized that you were the right person or you will realize that this person was wrong for you. Time is the only proof of an idea or thought, use this to your advantage.

	*People meet by association.		*People meet by association.
	::Remember this. There will be a rare time that people meet by ~~dumbluck~~. Usually they meet via friends. And friends have friends with friends and so on. Maybe ~~your~~ seeing someone and things fall apart. Don't be shocked when ~~your~~ told through the vine that they are now dating a friend of yours. Don't be mad, just deal. If there was foul play then be pissed but if not then grow up and get out of the way. I always laugh when I hear that so and so's X is off limits. Give me a fucking break. That is like a ~~Fire~~ hydrant that is only allowed to be pissed on by one dog, usually the male type of fucking idiot that has control issues but from time to time females are just as guilty. When you jump from one ~~lilly~~ pad to another, don't think you will always have the lily as backup. ~~Your~~ a fool and an asshole if you play this game. Grow up and move on.		::Remember this. There will be a rare time that people meet by dumb luck. Usually they meet via friends. And friends have friends with friends and so on. Maybe you're seeing someone and things fall apart. Don't be shocked when you're told through the vine that they are now dating a friend of yours. Don't be mad, just deal. If there was foul play then be pissed, but if not then grow up and get out of the way. I always laugh when I hear that so and so's ex is off limits. Give me a fucking break. That is like a fire hydrant that is only allowed to be pissed on by one dog, usually the male type of fucking idiot that has control issues but from time to time; females are just as guilty. When you jump from one lily pad to another, don't think you will always have the lily as backup. You're a fool and an asshole if you play this game. Grow up and move on.

	== Reminders==		== Reminders==

Abby: /* Importing new blood */

2011-02-27T21:53:57Z

Importing new blood

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	== Importing new blood==		== Importing new blood==
	I grew up in a small fucking town. The potential is few and far between and crossing paths can be all too common. It is always a good idea to meet new people. When you do and decide to invite the person to move in with you in your home town there are a few things you need to know. To ~~Start~~, you should be prepared to have no ~~personally~~ time, that is time by yourself or with your friends without the poor bloke you just allowed to move in with you. They will have no friends and will become friends with you. This becomes complex as you start to lose a side of your ~~live~~ that might be very important to you. This is not their fault, it is yours. You invited them to come stay with you and in the end you might get cold to them and push them away because ~~your~~ lacking your space.		I grew up in a small fucking town. The potential is few and far between and crossing paths can be all too common. It is always a good idea to meet new people. When you do and decide to invite the person to move in with you in your home town there are a few things you need to know. To start, you should be prepared to have no personal time, that is time by yourself or with your friends without the poor bloke you just allowed to move in with you. They will have no friends and will become friends with you. This becomes complex as you start to lose a side of your life that might be very important to you. This is not their fault, it is yours. You invited them to come stay with you and in the end you might get cold to them and push them away because you're lacking your personal space.

	Don't blame them, blame yourself. If you find they are fucking one of your friends on the side, don't blame them, blame yourself and ohh, don't forget to tell your buddy that is going at it with your piece to go fuck themselves for life.		Don't blame them, blame yourself. If you find they are fucking one of your friends on the side, don't blame them, blame yourself and ohh, don't forget to tell your buddy that is going at it with your piece to go fuck themselves for life.

	== My Recap ==		== My Recap ==

Abby: /* Rekindling an old fuck */

2011-02-27T21:52:53Z

Rekindling an old fuck

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	== Rekindling an old fuck ==		== Rekindling an old fuck ==
	This one is a ~~duzzy~~. You can either be the person that got hurt in the past or the person that did the hurting. If ~~your~~ the latter, you might be falling into a trap of revenge and maybe you deserve it. If you were the one that got hurt, be very careful. People don't change and your could be getting setup for a repeat viewing of the same old movie.		This one is a doozy. You can either be the person that got hurt in the past or the person that did the hurting. If you're the latter, you might be falling into a trap of revenge and maybe you deserve it. If you were the one that got hurt, be very careful. People don't change and your could be getting setup for a repeat viewing of the same old movie.

	I am not going to tell you what to do here but I am going to tell you a few things that I have learned from this one. To ~~Start~~, you only remember the good things about the original ~~relationships~~. You forget all the things that drove you fucking nuts about this person. You think, ohh but this and that was amazing but you forget about the dirty bathroom, the annoying friends, the TV addiction, the ~~ciggaretts~~, the drinking so on. If you are going to go down this road, remind yourself of why you split in the first place. The trigger events, the reasons both good and bad. Luck favors the fucking prepared.		I am not going to tell you what to do here, but I am going to tell you a few things that I have learned from this one. To start, you only remember the good things about the original relationship. You forget all the things that drove you fucking nuts about this person. You think, ohh but this and that was amazing but you forget about the dirty bathroom, the annoying friends, the TV addiction, the cigaretts, the drinking, and so on. If you are going to go down this road, remind yourself of why you split in the first place. The trigger events, the reasons both good and bad. Luck favors the fucking prepared.

	== Importing new blood==		== Importing new blood==

Abby: /* Waking up and trying to figure out how to fix what you just did */

2011-02-27T21:51:56Z

Waking up and trying to figure out how to fix what you just did

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	== Waking up and trying to figure out how to fix what you just did ==		== Waking up and trying to figure out how to fix what you just did ==

	Alcohol related ~~opps~~ fucking. Anyone ~~how~~ drinks needs to admit something: We ~~Drink~~ to loosen up and do things we otherwise would not, I know this is why I drink. ~~With this~~ said, there are a few dangers: STDs, ~~Kids~~, ~~Divorce~~, death of a friendship to name a few. The bottom line is that people meet my association and these things happen, sometimes they were meant to happen.		Alcohol related opportunity fucking. Anyone who drinks needs to admit something: We drink to loosen up and do things we otherwise would not, I know this is why I drink. That being said, there are a few dangers: STDs, kids, divorce, death of a friendship to name a few. The bottom line is that people meet my association and these things happen, sometimes they were meant to happen.

	When you wake up in a foreign bed or in your own with someone that should not be there, don't freak. Your best bet is to play it cool. Don't show emotion, don't show that ~~your~~ happy or that your sad. Just let it be. Don't snuggle, don't try and talk about it. Just let is sit. After a bit, say something like, "Well, that was a surprise!" The ~~Bottom~~ line is that what is done is done and there is nothing that can erase it.		When you wake up in a foreign bed or in your own with someone that should not be there, don't freak. Your best bet is to play it cool. Don't show emotion, don't show that you're happy or that your sad. Just let it be. Don't snuggle, don't try and talk about it. Just let is sit. After a bit, say something like, "Well, that was a surprise!" The bottom line is that what is done is done and there is nothing that can erase it.

	Moving forward, you and this person have a deal with one another, this stays there and then. If you don't trust this person then try to verbalize this. If this still does not work then you might want to plan for the blowback from this one because it is coming. 8 times out of 10, you can get away with an unspoken deal that will ~~ether~~ never be replayed or one that will. If this is a replay from now on then it is either a good surprise or a bad one. Don't forget, if ~~your~~ cheating, there are a lot of other things to consider (stated above). If this is one of those, "I would have never thought." then maybe you got lucky. Either way, don't look at the negative side, try and look at the positive. The other person will read this on you and go with it as well.		Moving forward, you and this person have a deal with one another, this stays there and then. If you don't trust this person then try to verbalize this. If this still does not work, then you might want to plan for the blowback from this one because it is coming. 8 times out of 10, you can get away with an unspoken deal that will either never be replayed or one that will. If this is a replay from now on, then it is either a good surprise or a bad one. Don't forget, if you're cheating, there are a lot of other things to consider (stated above). If this is one of those, "I would have never thought" then maybe you got lucky. Either way, don't look at the negative side, try and look at the positive. The other person will read this on you and go with it as well.

	And one more thing to note, keep this past even off your face in public with one another, people can see it a mile away.		And one more thing to note, keep this past even off your face in public with one another, people can see it a mile away.

Abby: /* Physical attraction is for the weak */

2011-02-27T21:50:11Z

Physical attraction is for the weak

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	== Physical attraction is for the weak ==		== Physical attraction is for the weak ==

	Physical Attraction (sexiness) is a fucking perk, one that is hard to fight. Do you find that ~~your~~ weak with those ~~your~~ attracted to physically? Can't say no when they want to get it going? if this is you then ~~your~~ walking on thin ice. This is where you can get into a long term fuck relationship status (it will never go much further ~~from~~ them). Wait to find the right match both physically and mentally. If ~~your~~ not that bright (not being mean here) then trust your physical attraction because it might be all you have to go on and at the end of the day this is in our DNA and is one of the most basic things mankind was built on.		Physical Attraction (sexiness) is a fucking perk, one that is hard to fight. Do you find that you're weak with those you're attracted to physically? Can't say no when they want to get it going? If this is you, then you're walking on thin ice. This is where you can get into a long-term fuck relationship status (it will never go much further with them). Wait to find the right match both physically and mentally. If you're not that bright (not being mean here), then trust your physical attraction because it might be all you have to go on and at the end of the day this is in our DNA and is one of the most basic things mankind was built on.

	== Waking up and trying to figure out how to fix what you just did ==		== Waking up and trying to figure out how to fix what you just did ==

Abby: /* Had the right one but lost them (or let them go) */

2011-02-27T21:49:21Z

Had the right one but lost them (or let them go)

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	Are you comparing all the potentials in your life to one you have crossed paths with in the past? Is that person still alive? Are they single? If so, go get them because this will never stop until you find a replacement or give it a shot.		Are you comparing all the potentials in your life to one you have crossed paths with in the past? Is that person still alive? Are they single? If so, go get them because this will never stop until you find a replacement or give it a shot.

	Remember, there is an ass for every seat. You will find another, just be patient and keep an open~~-end~~.		Remember, there is an ass for every seat. You will find another, just be patient and keep an open mind.

	== Physical attraction is for the weak ==		== Physical attraction is for the weak ==

Abby: /* Long Distance Jokes */

2011-02-27T21:48:58Z

Long Distance Jokes

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	== Long Distance Jokes ==		== Long Distance Jokes ==
	Long distance relationships are by far the best (in my book). They allow for minimal commitment in a very short amount of time. They are spontaneous, fast paced and full of fun but leave you lonely. Are you the type that needs their space? More then 50% of the time? More then 80% of the time? More the 95% of the time? If you are in the latter two then LDs are perfect for you. You do your thing, live your ~~live~~, cheat like mad and from time to time run off and play the perfect couple roll. These can last a long time and are a lot of fun but one of a handful of ways.
			Long distance relationships are by far the best (in my book). They allow for minimal commitment in a very short amount of time. They are spontaneous, fast-paced and full of fun but leave you lonely. Are you the type that needs their space? More then 50% of the time? More then 80% of the time? More the 95% of the time? If you are in the latter two then LDs are perfect for you. You do your thing, live your life, cheat like mad and from time to time run off and play the perfect couple roll. These can last a long time and are a lot of fun in but one of a handful of ways.

	*You and yours decide to take it to the next level and move in with one another (or move closer geographically). You realize that you were not ready to give up so much freedom or realize that you can only handle the other person in small doses and you freak. Call it off and go back to being you, free, open, and by the seat of your pants.		*You and yours decide to take it to the next level and move in with one another (or move closer geographically). You realize that you were not ready to give up so much freedom or realize that you can only handle the other person in small doses and you freak. Call it off and go back to being you, free, open, and by the seat of your pants.
	*One of you wants more, tries to make it happen and freaks the other party out. It will all end very quickly here and you will probably never hear from the person again.		*One of you wants more, tries to make it happen and freaks the other party out. It will all end very quickly here and you will probably never hear from the person again.
	*One of you cheats and says ~~fuckit~~. It was a log distance relationship where you hardly saw one another so it is easier to walk away from.		*One of you cheats and says fuck it. It was a log distance relationship where you hardly saw one another so it is easier to walk away from.
	*One of started this relationship while cheating and wants all from everyone. This person deserves to be kicked where it hurts. Call me and I will help you do it.		*One of you started this relationship while cheating and wants all from everyone. This person deserves to be kicked where it hurts. Call me and I will help you do it.

	== Had the right one but lost them (or let them go) ==		== Had the right one but lost them (or let them go) ==

Abby: /* Shit or get off the pot */

2011-02-27T21:47:51Z

Shit or get off the pot

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	== Shit or get off the pot ==		== Shit or get off the pot ==

	Shit or get off the pot. This is another one of the ones I don't have firsthand knowledge of but I see it in a lot of my friends and get a lot of confiding about this issue. This ties in to a lot of other factors, many of which have been listed here. Lets make it real simple:		Shit or get off the pot. This is another one of the ones I don't have firsthand knowledge of, but I see it in a lot of my friends and get a lot of people confiding in me about this issue. This ties in to a lot of other factors, many of which have been listed here. Lets make it real simple:

	Ask yourself: Are you cheating? Do you love the person? Do you want to cheat? Do you like this person? Do you like spending time with this person? Do you know if this is the right person for you or not?		Ask yourself: Are you cheating? Do you love the person? Do you want to cheat? Do you like this person? Do you like spending time with this person? Do you know if this is the right person for you or not?

	If you answer these and find that you are a good boy or girlfriend to this person, then it sounds like you have the right person and you just need the balls to make the endgame happen. If you answer in ways that clearly show that ~~your~~ a fuck to the other person then it is in your best interest to walk. Ever heard of ~~Karma~~? That shit is real and it will find you. Don't be a dick.		If you answer these and find that you are a good boy or girlfriend to this person, then it sounds like you have the right person and you just need the balls to make the endgame happen. If you answer in ways that clearly show that you're a fuck to the other person then it is in your best interest to walk. Ever heard of karma? That shit is real and it will find you. Don't be a dick.

	== Long Distance Jokes ==		== Long Distance Jokes ==