Jumping Ship

Growing apart over time:

Something changed in recent time that is causing people to split after years of commitment. It is very strange.

You see it everyday: Perfect couple, Kids, House so on. Kids start to grow up, parents realize that they want something different. Usually one of the parents decides the life they live is not the life they want (Now, though it once was). Usually in this case, the troubled person in the relationship will communicate this to his or her partner and usually the partner refuses to listen, understand or accept any aspect of what they are hearing.

When I have seen this it is usually one of two things:

• A Father that wants more then just raising kids, wants to have the kids be important but not the only thing between he and his wife.

• A Wife that has sacrificed all that could have been to raise kids who now needs not be at home all the time. Usually she will go out and get a high power job and decide the home life that once was optimal no longer does the trick.

• The Mid to late life husband that has been successful (money) and has been venturing out more then he should. Met some young thing and decides to take the jump.

While there are a ton of situations that can get you to the breaking point in your relationship I just wanted to make a few comments.

First, it is like wild west out there these days. Everything costs a ton of cash as compared to the life you are about to leave in which you save a ton of cash staying home, cooking, drinking so on. Secondly, it is lonely and cold out there. People are very fake these days and you will find that whatever boy/girl toy your chasing/dreaming about probably has half the moral and ethical fiber of your current spouse. While the change sounds fun (and it can be, don't get me wrong) know that it will be short lived. It is rare these dream guy/girl relationships last.

Additionally be ware of a few pitfalls:

• Usually what your jumping ship for is the polar opposite of the one your jumping ship from. This can be dangerous as you have melded over time with the one your leaving and that change takes time, getting up to speed and out of your old ways is not going to be easy.

• You have not played the game in a long time. It is not the same as it was with you were 16. Don't be an idiot and think all is the same out there. It is not.

If you find yourself in this place, think it all out as much as you can. Don't be blind to what you have, take a step back and think it out, look at the good and bad, justify it. Luck favors the prepared. Be Prepared.

Whatever you decide to do, do it and don't fuck with those you have hurt. Make the change, stand by your decisions. Don't second guess them. And for the love of god, don't keep sleeping with your X. All your doing is stopping them from moving on which is totally selfish of yourself.